Today was supposed to be some kind of celebration for me – two years ago, 7 Jan 2012, I registered for the first time on WordPress. And with it I started a life online, of something I could never imagined. Before then I was just a fangirl following my favorite actor – feeling alone in my mild obsession. That day began a wonderful rollercoaster of experiences with wonderful friends and acquaintances from all over the world . Together we experience the ups and downs in a famous persons life. We feel sad when something bad happens in his life and we rejoice in to good stuff around him. Is it normal? Maybe not, but it is very human. We identify with someone who we love or admire and we follow their ups and downs.
Yesterday, Alex (and his family) lost a lot of worldly possession, each with its own level of value and importance to them. The News was quick to put a monetary value to it, deciding it was nothing in comparison to the total value of his property. But the loss of things that provide us with memories, can never be measured. The most valuable asset we as humans however have, is to adapt and move on and with time the loss becomes vague and our lives are filled with new experiences and things of value.
Most men I know, keep some of their most valuable stuff in their garage. Their cars and their other expensive “toys” – in Alex’s case most probably all his motorbikes, building tools and other outdoor activity equipment. But again, losing those things can never be as bad as the loss of someone close to you – and in Alex’s case we are relieved to know, he and his loved ones, did not suffer any trauma from injury or loss of life.
But I think today Alex also lost something else valuable and dear to him – his privacy and the value of his sanctuary and home in Hawaii. As the lead actor in the most famous TV series at the moment being filmed in Hawaii – he is news, big news. We can not blame the people broadcasting news, for showing it. It is just part of our generation of information. On the one hand we are also grateful for it, because seeing the detail helps to minimize false rumors and speculations. But on the other hand I realised that his private moments, are not private and everybody could see his damaged home and the pain of the first glimpse of his loss.
The viewers seeing the news all differ so much. Some just see it with eyes of morbid curiosity and some of them even making snide and tasteless comments. Others see it with real interest and feelings for this person on the other side of the world.
For the most part, I was really proud to be part of a group of fans that took and discussed the events with dearness and dignity. That and the dignity with which Alex handled the situation, warmed my heart……
I’m very protective of my family, and I don’t ever want this stuff affecting them. Usually I’m okay with it, but sometimes I want to just go home and shut the door. I’m a very private person, and this loss of anonymity is the hardest thing to deal with.
– Alex O’Loughlin, Jetstar Magazine, February 2011
We want to wish Alex and his family a better 2014 from here on!
May your new bikes be even better than the old ones 🙂