Alex O’Loughlin – Sometimes we lose things ……… some precious, some not!

Today was supposed to be some kind of celebration for me – two years ago, 7 Jan 2012, I registered for the first time on WordPress. And with it I started a life online, of something I could never imagined. Before then I was just a fangirl following my favorite actor – feeling alone in my mild obsession. That day began a wonderful rollercoaster of experiences with wonderful friends and acquaintances from all over the world . Together we experience the ups and downs in a famous persons life. We feel sad when something bad happens in his life and we rejoice in to good stuff around him. Is it normal? Maybe not, but it is very human. We identify with someone who we love or admire and we follow their ups and downs.

Yesterday,  Alex (and his family) lost a lot of worldly possession, each with its own level of value and importance to them. The News was quick to put a monetary value to it, deciding it was nothing in comparison to the total value of his property. But the loss of things that provide us with memories, can never be measured. The most valuable asset we as humans however have, is to adapt and move on and with time the loss becomes vague and our lives are filled with new experiences and things of value.

Most men I know, keep some of their most valuable stuff in their garage. Their cars and their other expensive “toys” – in Alex’s case most probably all his motorbikes, building tools and other outdoor activity equipment. But again, losing those things can never be as bad as the loss of someone close to you – and in Alex’s case we are relieved to know, he and his loved ones, did not suffer any trauma from injury or loss of life.

But I think today Alex also lost something else valuable and dear to him – his privacy and the value of his sanctuary and home in Hawaii. As the lead actor in the most famous TV series at the moment being filmed in Hawaii – he is news, big news. We can not blame the people broadcasting news, for showing it. It is just part of our generation of information. On the one hand we are also grateful for it, because seeing the detail helps to minimize false rumors and speculations. But on the other hand I realised that his private moments, are not private and everybody could see his damaged home and the pain of the first glimpse of his loss.

The viewers seeing the news all differ so much. Some just see it with eyes of morbid curiosity and some of them even making snide and tasteless comments. Others see it with real interest and feelings for this person on the other side of the world.

For the most part, I was really proud to be part of a group of fans that took and discussed the events with dearness and dignity. That and the dignity with which Alex handled the situation, warmed my heart……

I’m very protective of my family, and I don’t ever want this stuff affecting them. Usually I’m okay with it, but sometimes I want to just go home and shut the door. I’m a very private person, and this loss of anonymity is the hardest thing to deal with.

– Alex O’Loughlin, Jetstar Magazine, February 2011

We want to wish Alex and his family a better 2014 from here on!

May your new bikes be even better than the old ones 🙂

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50 responses to “Alex O’Loughlin – Sometimes we lose things ……… some precious, some not!

  1. I saw a link about this on my Twitter feed last night and immediately went to the website to make sure he and his family were okay. After finding out everyone was ok my 1st thought was great now everyone knows where he lives and I cringed.

    Very well written post Foyeur.

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  2. Marnov

    Thank you for this necessary post, FOYeur. I was saddened by the news and didn’t really feel comfortable watching pics from the scene. On a happier note, “May your new bikes be even better than the old ones”, yes!

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  3. Very well put. I hope people will respect his privacy and I truly hope his home will continue to be his sanctury.
    And you are so right, there was thankfully no injury or loss of any life, but a fire like that is still a trauma you have to get over with time.
    I wish him all the best.
    OH, and congrats on the anniversary. Love to come here on a regular basis. You’re doing a great job.

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    • Thank you and thank you for supporting us. ♥
      I also do like your blog as well and my new years resolution is to start commenting on there and other sites more again this year – Hope I will keep to it and RL will afford me the time to to so.

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  4. Thank you for writing such a thoughtful and considered post. I’m not normally one to post comments (I’m a little nervous!!) but I really felt compelled to, as this has been praying on my mind ever since I became aware of what happened. My first thoughts when I heard the news of the fire a short while ago and watched the news report was that the saddest outcome of the whole thing was his loss of privacy – the news report made it possible for even the most technically inept to find his full postal address within a matter of seconds. As someone who values his privacy, and that of his family, so very highly, that must be the absolute worst feeling of violation possible, a pain more intense than the emotional fallout of the fire itself. My heart goes out to them not just for what they’ve had to go through with the fire (and the horrible sense of fear and anxiety that it must have caused, regardless of them not being home) but the fact that their lives just became a whole load more complicated. A sanctuary has ceased to be a sanctuary, and whilst belongings can be replaced, that ease of mind can’t. Sad news indeed.

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    • Hi Pam, thanks for you comment.
      On here, nobody should feel nervous.
      We appreciate everyone’s input.
      Hopefully Alex will feel the love and support from around the world!

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  5. Lisa

    I was very saddened by his loss, but relief set in after I read everyone was ok. It’s always hard to loose things that we love and time will heal some wounds, but most importantly everyone got out safe. I found it really sad they posted the address on line, he is very private but now it’s out. Here’s to a better year, a new year. God bless

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  6. Oh my! I’m so happy no one was home at the time of the explosion! Thank you, FOYeur for your thoughtful posting. *applause*
    I do hope that Alex and his family will be able to stay at their house now that it has been in the news. Sometimes I’m almost glad that Alex isn’t as big of a movie star as, say, George Clooney or Ryan Gosling, yet. Even if he is the greatest to us fangirls, he isn’t famous enough yet – I hope – to attract SERIOUSLY crazy fans that would now flock to his house.
    I also wish Alex and his family that the rest of 2014 will only provide good surprises! 🙂

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    • Sadly from things I have seen written in the past on other sites Alex has some VERY SERIOUS crazy fans who could be a problem now they know where he lives.
      I am very happy Alex and his family weren’t home at the time.
      Tragedy can strike at anytime and anyone and even though the press trivialized the monetary loss I am sure to him it wasn’t about the money but the memories. Should we love our possessions, maybe no,t but we all seem to have something that if we lost it we would be devastated.
      Did he lose everything No, does he have the money to rebuild and move forward yes and I am sure he will. My thoughts and prayers go out to Alex and Malia’s children who may not be able to handle this as well as the adults do.

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      • Wanda, you are right, there are pretty disturbed people out there. But there is something going in his favor. Hawaii is a long way from everywhere else. And quite frankly he himself gave a lot of ‘hints’ over the last two years where he lives, that those crazy fans could have figured it out easily by now anyway.
        I think he is relatively safe from the crazies, but I still hope he will upgrate his security for a while. Just in case.;-)

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        • I agree with you. Those who wanted his address, have most likely found out about it a long time ago. I trust that the fact he lives on a closed street, will make it almost impossible for crazed fans to go lurking there. I doubt his life will change much because of this news spreading wider.
          I sure hope he gets to live there with his family, in peace an quiet again.

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  7. Sally Amelotti

    I’m so sorry that this happened to him, but very glad that no one was hurt or injured. Material things can be replaced and new memories formed. His memories of the lost pieces will never be forgotten because they are in his heart. Here is to making a lot of new memories and forgetting the bad ones.

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  8. I’m so happy no one get injured. But his bikes: R.I.P. T.T

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  9. Again a very thoughtful and well-considered post FOYeur! Thank you. The main thing he lost is his privacy. So right.
    But I’m pretty sure the one thing he will never forget is getting the call (on set I think) saying ‘your house is on fire’ and seeing the smoke over Diamond Head. Horrible.

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  10. LindaSue

    Very well written, FOYeur. You wrote exactly what I was feeling last night when I read about this. That is why I love reading your posts every day. Most of the time it is humor but the empathy and caring are there above all else. Hopefully Alex and his family will soon be able to replace the possessions, enjoy the memories they created and be extremely grateful for what they still have.

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  11. So thankful Alex and his family are safe. Wishing them a better 2014 starting now!

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    • Sandra`

      Alex O’Loughlin has been a daily part of my life since 2007. I watch some-
      thing with him in it every day. We know every nuance in his face. We knew when he wasn’t well, when he is tired, etc, but the look on his face
      when he saw his house was heartbreaking, although I am certain the first
      thing he asked was everyone alright. He will get through this, he is resilient
      and as far as his privacy goes, I would think that the majority of people in
      Hawaii know who he is and what he has done for their state and they will
      continue to respect him and his family.

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  12. I was shocked to see it pop up in my twitter timeline as well yesterday afternoon while I was waiting for my car to be fixed. I was a bit panicked because I wasn’t infront of my trusty computer but managed to read that he and his precious family weren’t at home and let out a very big sigh of relief. When I got home I went on to HNN Facebook page to find out the details and couldn’t believe some of the nasty witless comments. It’s a double edged sword really isn’t it. I was saddened that this had happened and his loss of privacy (goods can be replaced) but also very happy and thankful that no-one was home and his family and neighbours were all safe.Fire is a very scary experience. Hopefully things don’t get too out of hand for him, privacy wise in the near future. #LovetoyouandthefamAlex

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  13. canadagirl66

    Such a thoughtful post…thank you FOYeur.
    I am saddened for Alex and his family for what they may have lost in the fire. Yes, everything can be replaced but the initial shock and disappointment would be difficult.
    I never saw his address and don’t intend to go back and look for it. I am extremely upset that his privacy was violated that way….and deeply concerned for his and his family’s safety and security.
    I know the crazies out there cannot be reasoned with so my only hope is that there is a great geographical span between him and them. For those who have a healthy obsession for this man (I’m one of them) I hope that they love and respect Alex enough to stay away from his home and refrain from sending mail to his personal address.
    I pray that his home remains a sanctuary for him and Malia and their children.

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  14. It is very sad what happened to Alex’s house and the loss of some of his possessions but surely the most important thing is that him and his family are safe and nobody was hurt.
    After showing the deck on the “Ellen” show it wasn’t very difficult for anybody to spot Alex’s house while in Honolulu so I don’t think this event put his privacy much more at risk then before.
    I’m just happy they are all OK.

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  15. What endears Alex to us tends to be how much time he gives to his fans and the touch of the fireman just warmed my heart yet again. We are so invested in supporting him that it is hard to completely stay away from this type of news. Alex has a team to help him stay safe from the wackos and try to protect as much of his privacy as possible. I will continue to support him and respect his life and family.

    Thanks for this wonderful post.

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  16. vanduyn

    Thanks so much for this post! I agree I felt so bad for Alex when watching the tape you could see the anguish in his face when he actually looked at the news camera. As you have all said, we “know” Alex as well as a fan can. You could just see the pain on his face. It made me want to give him a big hug. I’m so glad no one was home at the time, not only because of the fire but that’s so traumatic for kids. Happy Anniversary FOYeur 🙂

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  17. buttercup

    Nice and tender words and beautiful article.
    I wish for him and his family loads of strength and energy to overcome and go on!

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  18. I feel really frustrated, disappointed and sad, by some of the comments I have read today at various sites. I just hope that Alex and his family were recover soon from this incident and his life in Hawaii go forward anonymously and happy, as he desire, as it was until now.

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  19. Thank you for your kind and wise words. I was a little shocked by the news when i read at AOL-WW this morning, but relieved that nobody is hurt – that’s what really matters. He is resilient and very protector of his family, so i’m sure he does and will do everything to alleviate their pain/loss. Things can be replace, the memories are always there and the beauty of life is that we have the power to make wonderful moments and create memories each day.

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  20. Tina

    OMG – Thank the good Lord above that Alex and all his family are safe. As much as he will be feeling the pain of the loss, possessions can always be replaced, the lives of loved ones can’t.
    My heart goes out to Alex will go all out to replace what was lost, but as Marta1309 says, he will always have the memories and those can never be lost.

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  21. Linda E.

    Thank goodness Alex and his family are safe !! Possessions are nothing, loved ones are everything. Bless you, Alex !!!

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  22. Thank you for this post FOYeur. You said what so much of us feel. I know we get a little rabid sometimes, but I truly care about his well being, and respect his privacy. My heart goes out to Alex and his family for their loss of possessions and privacy. I cannot believe the things people are saying on the HHN FB page. 😦 I have not watched the tape, but the gif of him patting the fireman about made me cry. I love this man for the total class act that he is! It will be a great life lesson for his boys and I’m sure he will provide much insight and comfort to them. I am sure he will prove once again that he is a “Phoenix” and he will again rise above and carry on. 🙂

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  23. FOYeur
    What a beautiful and thoughtful post. it went straight to my heart and I agree with you completely
    It was a perfrct tribute to Alex and also to you for all the love and respect you have for him and share with us It was truly a privalige
    to read. THANK YOU WITH LOVE and Happy Anniversary

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  24. Karen

    I’m very happy that Alex and his family are safe and unharmed. Material possessions can be replaced. Not life.
    I would think that being under the microscope 24/7 is a very hard thing to deal with. I hope his anonymity continues especially for his children.

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  25. Just saw the pics of the destruction, all the bikes and boards torched. Very devastating, no matter how material it might be…

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  26. Antonya

    Hello FOYeur
    Bad and sad news, but we were glad that Alex and his family are fine. Wishing you all the best in this new year, and request all the maximum respect your privacy, Alex deserves, is a special person.
    Thank you very much for a wonderful and loving publication. And many congratulations on the second anniversary, always great job.
    Thousand thanks and a big hello with love, xoxo.

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  27. Lesley BAILLIE

    I wouldnt have known anything about this if you didnt email this story. Big story for the media and making a pest of themselves taking all the photos. Sorry to hear about the fire and damage but at least everyone ok

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  28. Hi just landed back home, in UK, after being on O’ahu for a business trip and felt I had to leave my thoughts. I sat open-mouthed with an American co-worker, who like myself adore all things Alex… what I found upsetting was the shameless disregard the reporters had in showing the street name. What amazed me was that his neighbours must be of great strength not to disclose who their famous neighbour was, even to their nearest and dearest, but it saddened me the most when my co-worker announced she wanted to find the place before she flew home on the Wednesday and blatently told me she hoped she would catch him at home… WTF lady, you adore this guy from a distance, show him the respect he deserves, not by being that love sick puppy… ( it was the one and only occasion I wanted to ever squeeze the life out of someone for being so immature) Anyway I try to visit your blog on a reqular basis when I’m not away travelling, your followers always leave the sort of messages that make me smile, especially when I’m feeling tired from the hectic life I have. Congrats on 2 yrs, your work is greatly loved & followed by this Alex fan

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  29. Yes, thank you so much for writing about it and how beautifully! How tactful! I can see a lot like Alex, of course.
    But I care about everything that happens to him and around him. Fans are just those who like to infiltrate the everyday life of a beloved star.

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