“What is in a name? that which we call a rose, by any other name would smell as sweet; so Romeo would, were he not Romeo called retain such dear perfection to which he owes without that title. Romeo, doth thy name; and for that name, which is no part of thee, take all thyself.”
― William Shakespeare (Romeo and Juliet)
If you have not read the first two installments of the story yet, please find
The early years
The actor Alex O’Loughlin, presently starring as Steve McGarrett in the CBS Television show Hawaii Five-0, was born on 24 August 1976 in Australia.
He is the son of a nurse and a teacher. He has got at least one sibling, his sister Jackie, who is about two years younger than him. His parents split up when he was two and he grew up for the most part in Canberra, while his dad lived in Sydney. It seems as if his grandparents played a big part in his life, as he often refers to them.
This is how my biography of the actor Alex O’Loughlin would start. I place the emphasis on ACTOR, because that is what he is to us as fans. We do not even know for sure if the name on his passport is Alex O’Loughlin, or whether he just uses it as an actor and public figure.
One thing we know for sure is that he was born on 24 August 1976 in Australia
. He himself has stated that fact many times. Notice, I just said Australia, because although most sites names Canberra as his place of birth, I have not found positive confirmation that he was indeed born there. Several of the older sites on the internet, list Sydney as his place of birth. (Maybe they think Sydney is the only city in Australia, who knows?)
Another “fact” I would not likely bet my life on, is that he was born as Alexander O’Lachlan. It could just as easily be Alexander Keays, Alexander Smith, or Alexander Scott. It is an all-around excepted fact and stated by almost every site as his name at birth. For me, the only evidence available, suggests it is most likely incorrect (Unfortunately that evidence in itself is not substantial enough for me to use). Again that does not really matter; because it does not change the fact that he is who he is NOW, the actor we know and love as Alex O’Loughlin.
I do not know if it is mandatory for sites to list a birth name and I am not sure why they do it without positive confirmation. There will be many that say he said he changed his name from O’Lachlan to O’Loughlin to honour his grandfather after making his first movie and therefore it must be his birth name. It can just as well be his maternal Grandfather’s name, that he took later on in life and that he refers to……
There are often references to the fact that his mother is a nurse and his father a teacher and that they went their separate ways when he was around two years old. He does mention his Canadian stepfather, so we presume his mother got re-married. We know about his sister Jackie, because he mentions her a lot, but we have no knowledge of any other step or half-siblings that he might have.
As a young ‘un, I just wanted to run to the world.
— Alex O’Loughlin, The Canberra Times, 28 June 2005
Canberra was a strange experience for me. I never felt at home in Canberra.
— Alex O’Loughlin, The Canberra Times, 28 June 2005
It also seems like his childhood in Canberra did not suit him well. He talks about feeling out-of-place there often in interviews. According to him, he believed he suffered from ADHD (or ADD) and he said he was a little OCD. Both conditions went undiagnosed in childhood and he was never treated for it.
Please be aware that this has never actually been diagnosed by a doctor and it can hardly be described as afflictions that he suffers from at present. A person might have a perception of what those diseases mean, that can be far apart from what the symptoms for the actual condition really are. Even doctors can’t always agree on how ADD or ADHD should be diagnosed.
[The ADHD] went undiagnosed and I managed to keep it hidden, but it caused me a lot of frustration.
— Alex O’Loughlin, Men’s Fitness, August 2011
When I was a young boy in elementary school I was quite a blatant example of a child with OCD, and I remember how it used to make me feel and how difficult it was.
— Alex O’Loughlin,TV Squad, 29 April 2009
We all carry the potential for certain diseases in our bodies and minds. It does not mean we suffer from it. When you study the symptoms of how psychological disorders are diagnosed, you sometimes get the feeling that you yourself suffer from them as well. We all have certain “symptoms” but only when it gets triggered and impairs our ability to function normally, can we call it as suffering from it.
For me, natural treatment for ADHD should always be the first choice. Medicating children should only happen after all other options have been explored. My perception of what people see when they suspect a child suffering
from this disease means a sensitive, intelligent, creative, and highly physical person. The hyperactivity most of the time is triggered by a form of malnutrition, caused by the over-use of refined sugars and the lack of certain nutrients we experience from our modern Western diets.
Channeling all that physical and creative energy and supplementing the diet deficiencies often lead to successful treatment. Don’t get me wrong, I believe that there are cases that need medical treatment, but a natural approach might also do the trick. Taking all this into account, if Alex did suffer from it he was maybe better off not being medicated for it but becoming active with certain sports. Another fact of this condition, that it must be extremely difficult for both child and parent, especially a working parent.
People ask what kind of kid I was—I used to steal bricks from construction sites, build walls from them, then ride my trike down through them.
— Alex O’Loughlin, Time Out New York, October 2009
The reason why I mention these details about the condition and my thought on the “talents” ( intelligence, creativeness and physical
People that suffer from OCD, experience anxiety, and need to somehow calm themselves by rituals. This can take hours out of a person’s day, performing these actions over and over again. With children, it can most commonly occur when they feel like they do not have control over their environment. Organizing their activities to the extreme provides them with some sort of control. I think this is not uncommon in children of divorce, especially when one parent moves away. However, a person saying that they are a little OCD is far removed from actually suffering from the condition.
I am amazed at how freely the term OCD is thrown around. Up until I joined the online community it was just a very real disease to me and not something every other perfectionist throws around as something they suffer from. (I might add here that my home language is not English and also that for me mental diseases are very real ) What I want to say is that a person that wants to have order and things done in a certain manner, does not constitute a disease and something you need treatment for. People have taken some symptoms of OCD, namely order and working with method, and made the disorder all about it.
I am not saying Alex suffers or does not suffer in some way from these ailments at all. What I want to emphasize is that terms get thrown around easily and should not be converted into facts, if they were not confirmed by a professional.
From what I gather, Alex did not have an easy childhood and he maybe needed some sort of explanation for it all. Using these terms maybe makes it easier for him to describe his frustrations as a child.
You might ask the question of why I have devoted so much time on all this. Some of you might not even have seen it mentioned before. If you read more about him, you will find that it is so often referred to and I believe misunderstood. I have seen long threads on boards being devoted to it and people calling it afflictions that he suffers from.
For me, what I get out of it, is that he did not have an easy childhood and that finding his place in life did not come easy to him. That in itself makes me respect and admire him so much more for what he actually achieved in life. Working through his problems, finding a place for himself in life. That together with hard work and a lot of dedication brought him here, to where we are today…..
……….to be continued here